Deana Carter sings "Do or Die" on Larry's Country Diner.
When Deana wrote this song, she was a single mom raising a son in Los Angeles, her days of Strawberry Wine and her five-times-platinum Did I Shave My Legs for This? album well behind her.
"I hadn't written in a while, and I was wondering what we were going to do, if I was going to have to get a job, because it had been a long time since I'd been on the radio," says Carter. "I wasn't going to be homeless or anything, but I had a house payment, I had insurance, L.A. property taxes — responsibilities that were solely on me, on top of food and school and care for my son."
The resulting song — with its memorable line "How we learn to live without is how we learn to live" — is a powerful reminder of the days when country music spoke directly to people's lives and concerns.
The official video features Carter's son, Hayes ("He's the blond looking at the camera, holding the "Do" sign," she says), and the children of several of Carter's friends. "I just e-mailed some of the parents we hang out with and said, 'We're going to shoot this impromptu video; can your kids come after school?' "